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Let me start off by saying I like porn. I write about sex on the occasion so yeah, I enjoy when other people enjoy themselves. However, I’m also very aware of the fact that porn is often not a safe place.

By Zane Lee on Unsplash

I don’t have a lot of patience for terrible people. Terrible by my own standards tends to be racist/homophobic/manipulative or just genuinely not a good fit for my personality type people. I’m not trying to be rude about it, but I will remove myself from a situation if I don’t have to deal with someone I don’t care for. For many people this may seem extreme — I know plenty of people who will do their hardest to be lenient — to teach someone they don’t like how to be better. …

Shane at the Window by @theyshane

I’ve come to realize that I take time to adjust to change. I feel like a cat, spurning the world around me because things like schedule or accessibility have inevitably changed. When my work schedule changed it took me a week to be able to get back into doing anything besides cooking, working, and sleeping. For periods of time my brain only focused on the exact methodology of what I had to do — ignoring the things I wanted to do.

By Maru Lombardo on Unsplash

Nobody wants to hear they’re bad at sex. We’d all like to be the Fabios of our own stories being dreamt about across the nation but for most of us that isn’t it. Instead we have to live with Expectations. From magazines to videos everyone has something to say about what you’re capable of in bed. So what happens when you’re just not that?

By Roberto Nickson on Unsplash

It’s never easy to get into fights with friends. In some ways it’s harder than a breakup — relationships are intense but quick, friendships are with the people you grow up with. They’re the support group that knows you best. So what do you do when you’ve fought with your friends?

By otografierende on Unsplash

It’s a hard pill to swallow but everyone hurts someone. Society says those who cause harm will be punished and innocent people shall not be harmed but that’s simply not true. There’s no cosmic alignment for good and bad, everyone, everyone is a shade of gray. You can have someone’s best interest at heart, you can love them with the whole of your being, that doesn’t mean you can’t hurt them.

By Gabrielle Henderson on Unsplash

Everyone looks up to someone. Whether it be a family member, a friend, or an idol, everyone has someone who embodies something they wish they had. For me it’s my peers. My career choices have always been different than my family so my mentors have always been others in the field. I follow a lot of influences and try to keep them in mind throughout my day. This is both great motivation and self sabotage.

By Yohann LIBOT on Unsplash

Everyone’s heard it’s not you, it’s me. But actually, sometimes it’s just me. I know I write about sex and also consume a lot of sex-positive media but sometimes I’m just not in the mood. It’s hard to say why that is but sometimes it just is. One of the harder things to understand when that happens is that it’s neither party’s fault, no one has done anything wrong — I’m just not feeling it.

By Adam Nieścioruk on Unsplash

Quarantine has done all kinds of things to our psyche. For me, it’s brought out one of my worst habits — my tendency to date selfishly. I found myself recently admitting that the guy I’d been texting wasn’t someone I was interested in — he was just someone that was there.

I was trying to make myself feel better with a rebound. Everyone loves a good roller coaster of emotions brought on by low crushing self esteem am I right? With this in mind I started talking to, let’s call him George. George…

By Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

You ever feel like the floor is sinking because you just don’t know how to deal with someone else’s feelings? I was recently put on the spot driving a coworker home from a work event. He’d gotten a bit too much to drink and I’d offered to drive him home instead of his former less than stellar plans. Seems he hadn’t planned on getting shit faced but what can you do — I was being a responsible adult driving him home.

Sophia An

Writer, artist, book lover. Shakespeare said “look like the innocent flower but be the serpent under it.” Someone help me be the flower.

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